I Know What It Feels Like to Be Heartbroken by Your Own Child

My name is Kim Damon, and I'm a certified life coach who helps moms reconnect with their grown children. But before I became a coach, I was just like you—a mom who felt completely lost.

Picture this: Your kids have grown up and moved out. You thought this would be the season of enjoying your relationship with them as adults. Instead, you're walking on eggshells, feeling rejected, and wondering what you did wrong.

I've been there.

After my children left for the military and college, I remarried and moved to start a new chapter. But instead of the happy family I dreamed of, I found myself in months of silence with my kids. The phone calls stopped. The visits became rare. I felt like I was failing at the one thing that mattered most to me—being their mom.

The Pain Nearly Broke Me

I was sure I had caused them to pull away. The guilt ate at me. I tried everything to numb the pain—working longer hours, eating too much, binge-watching TV, shopping, drinking wine. Nothing worked for long. The hurt always came back stronger.

I compared my family to all the happy families around me and felt completely broken. Maybe you know that feeling too.

Then Everything Changed

One day, I signed up with a life coach to lose weight. I thought I was just trying to get healthier. But what I discovered changed everything. I learned that most of my pain wasn't coming from my circumstances—it was coming from what I was thinking about my circumstances.

I was taking responsibility for everyone else's happiness except my own.

That one insight saved my soul.

My Transformation Snuck Up on Me

You know how you might find a lump on your leg and panic, thinking something's wrong—only to realize you're finally building muscle? That's exactly what happened to my happiness. I started small, right where I was, and slowly began to recognize that I had more control over my life than I thought.

As I grew stronger emotionally, everything shifted. My marriage improved. My relationships with my stepchildren got better. And most importantly, I reconnected with both of my children in a completely new way.

What I Learned Changes Everything

The transformation I experienced wasn't about becoming perfect or learning to control my kids. It was about letting my family be responsible for themselves while I focused on my own life and happiness.

It's like a huge weight was lifted. I no longer felt rejected because I finally understood that when others misbehave or say harsh words, it has nothing to do with my worth as a mom.

Now I Help Other Moms Find Their Way Back

I became so passionate about sharing this breakthrough that I left my successful corporate career to dedicate my life to helping moms like you. Through my Christ-centered approach, I've developed the L.O.V.E. M.E.N.D.S. Framework that transforms relationships from broken to connected.

I've learned that you don't have to choose between loving your children and loving yourself. You can do both.

You Don't Have to Stay Stuck

If you're feeling heartbroken, rejected, or like you're walking on eggshells with your grown children, I want you to know something: This is not your fault, and it's not hopeless.

You can learn to manage your emotions instead of letting them manage you. You can develop new patterns of relating to your children that honor both of you. You can find peace and joy again, regardless of how your children respond.

Most importantly, you can discover that your worth as a mom—and as a woman—isn't determined by how your adult children treat you.

Ready to Start Your Healing Journey?

I've walked this path. I know the pain you're feeling, and I know the hope that's waiting for you on the other side. You don't have to figure this out alone.

Whether you're dealing with low contact, estrangement, or just feeling disconnected from your grown children, there is a way forward. It starts with taking care of your own heart first.

Your healing matters. Your happiness matters. You matter.

Let's talk about how you can start feeling worthy and connected again.